How To Calm Your Child's Anxiety Amid Tragic News

The recent school shooting in Uvalde, Texas once again left our nation reeling and parents struggling to help their children cope with another tragedy. For some kids, this is their first exposure to violence on such a large scale. The images and headlines are frightening—even for adults. So it's understandable that they will certainly spark some anxiety in children as we approach the upcoming school year.
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Whether you have a young child or a teenager, it is important to have open conversations about these events. The more you talk with them about events like these, the more you will help them adapt healthy coping skills. Consider some of these tips as you approach these sensitive topics:

• Use age-appropriate language. Never assume that your younger child doesn’t understand what’s going on or that your teenage children are fine. Children are sponges that soak up everything. Even if they seem to be okay, they may be hiding their feelings or embarrassed to bring up their concerns. Always make sure they feel comfortable talking with you. Offer them an opportunity to talk one-on-one about what they’re hearing at school or seeing in the news. Always end the conversations with reassurance that you are a safe space for them to express their thoughts and feelings. Consider also explaining that the measures they may see now (security guards, metal detectors, or lock-down drills) are to ensure their safety.

• Encourage self-expression. Children will find it easier to express their feelings through creative outlets like art or writing. This is a helpful way for your child to process feelings and work through anxiety. Consider exchanging written letters, notes, or drawings with your child. Many times these will be great openers to start a conversation.

• Stick to a routine. Children feel safe when they are in environments and routines that they know. Especially during times when they otherwise feel stressed. It is also helpful for them to be involved in setting up the daily and weekly routine—so that they have some sense of control during a time when things feel very uncontrollable. Be sure to prioritize sleep as part of their routine, as it is an important part of child development.

• Check in on their mental health frequently. Changes in your child’s mood or behavior are indicators that something is wrong. Some of these changes are so subtle you may not notice them right away. Pay close attention to your child’s sleep habits, eating habits, mood, grades, social interactions, and enjoyment in activities they usually love. If you notice something seems off, don’t hesitate to ask clear and specific questions.

• Step away from the news. Tragic news is heavy for all of us. So it’s healthy and important to take a break it. Consider making your dinner table a screen-free zone, and implementing a rule of turning off devices by a certain time in the evening. You can also filter your social media feeds so that you are not always bombarded with news stories.

• Stay connected. Enjoying quality family time is a great way to escape the negativity, practice gratitude, and reconnect with each other. Schedule time every week to get outside for a walk or bike ride, play a game, or watch a lighthearted movie together.

Anxiety and stress are tough for kids to deal with, especially with a seemingly endless string of tragic events. Frequent conversations and reassurance from you will help them cope with their feelings and develop healthy coping skills for the rest of their lives. Remember, you are not alone in this—many parents are learning how to guide their children through the same feelings. Consider getting counseling or reaching out to family and friends for support as you navigate this difficult part of parenting.
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Counseling for Teens in CA & NV

There are times when anxiety or stress becomes too much to bear, especially in the wake of a tragic event. In children, persistent changes in mood, being withdrawn from usual activity, trouble sleeping, changes in appetite, and difficulty concentrating all point towards needing more help. If you or someone you know has a child who is struggling with their mental health, Medens offers in-person and virtual counseling appointments for children. Reach out to us by phone or text at (833) 624-5400, or by filling out our online contact form.

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